So I write mysteries featuring a long-ago midwife. Turning the Tide releases next April. Native to Massachusetts, Rose Carroll catches babies, hears secrets, and solves crimes back in the late 1880s. I had a part-time gig as a childbirth educator and labor coach a couple of decades ago. Until last week, the last birth I'd attended in any role was over twenty years ago.
Thirty-two years ago my best friend gave birth to my goddaughter, and I was in the room helping as best I could when she was born at home with the help of independent midwives. Last weekend that goddaughter gave birth to her own first baby, and once again I was there in a supporting role. I was so honored and thrilled to have that circle come round again.
She chose to give birth in a free-standing birth center which is affiliated with the hospital across the street.
Birthing figures from the birth center's living room |
Here are a few things I'll be incorporating in my next Quaker Midwife mystery:
- A woman in labor with her first child looks at her husband and says, "No more babies!"
- During the first phase, the mom-to-be goes inward with each contraction, very quietly, very stoically.
- Before active labor kicks in, her contractions slow overnight to every eight to ten minutes, and she snoozes in between.
- After active labor start, with pains coming every three minutes and lasting two, the woman despairs, weeping and swearing, but persevering.
- She throws off any hand or touch that she doesn't want.
- She pushes on her hands and knees for almost two hours.
- The midwife checks the heartbeat during pushing, and has to get the listening device in just the right position to hear the baby's heart.
- The woman swears and grunts as she pushes, her whole body taking part.
- The midwife uses oil and eases the head out slowly so the mom doesn't tear.
- Once the head is out, the baby looks around and smacks its lips together, already alert.
- The cord is a tough membrane and beautiful, silvery and translucent.
- Instantly after birth the mom feels better and speaks softly to her child at the breast.
I'm sure there are more, but this experience - a miracle and an honor for me - really brought birthing alive again.
Readers: Any vivid birth memories you'd like to share? Your own or that of others? One commenter will win a copy of Called to Justice (make sure I know your email address so I can find the winner).
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